The business world is not your entire life, as much as it may seem to be. Your career is but one aspect of your life that also includes friends, family, and personal needs and issues. The only way to have success in your career is by having success in your personal and social lives. A balance must be struck. True success cannot be had in one area of your life and not another.
Ask yourself these 9 questions to help you find that balance:
1. What do I really want?
This age old question still scares a lot of people. I say look at each aspect of your life. The physical, the spiritual, the financial, and the emotional. Within each we have goals whether we realize it or not. Simplifying these goals will help you get back on track if your are lost. Personally I want to be healthy, as close to God as possible, successful in my career, and emotionally stable. Pretty straightforward wants. Now I can go in individually and set goals to make it happen.
2. Should I really change?
Self improvement should be looked at from a positive light. Its purpose is to build on your strengths and find ways to buffer your weaknesses. Don’t take time to wallow in all the things wrong with you. Find the positives across the board, small or large, in both your weaknesses and your strengths and fine tune them. Always know that your happiness is most important. The change should never take away from who you are, only make you better. To build your strengths- practice makes perfect. If you have a horrible memory, learn to make lists.
3. What’s the bright side in all of this?
With so much happening around us, there seem to be no room for even considering that light at the end of the tunnel. We can still see it as something positive without undergoing so much scrutiny. And if it’s a train at the end of the tunnel, don’t be afraid to embrace it. This train, a symbol of adversity, can bring a new outlook on life, a growth unexpected, a lesson that needs to be learned. Look at every bad thing as a good thing. Instead of making the same mistake over and over, with this lesson learned, you will avoid and/or overcome things in the future. Still sounds like a bright side to me.
4. Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?
Make sure you want to change for yourself and not for someone else. If its a child or a spouse or someone you love deeply, let that be your motivation to be better for them. Don’t let their opinions run you into the ground or cause you to fall into depression. Especially if its something that you cannot change. Learn to see yourself as someone unique, or else we’ll all be equally the same in everything we do. Variety keeps life very interesting and exciting. Be okay with what you are changing so that the change is a build on your positives. Stay true to yourself.
5. Have I done enough for myself?
Not taking care of yourself and putting everyone else first can hurt more than help. Find a healthy balance. Discontentment in every aspect can be dangerous. Once you are well and happy, you can pour love and peace on to others people and grow personally as well.
6. Am I happy at where I am today?
Are there things in your life that suck the happiness right out of you? Do you look at a day as if its a burden rather than a blessing? Find the things that put a smile on your face,first be thankful, and then incorporate them into your lives on a daily basis. With business, really take a look at how you feel at the end of each day. Does your work drain you, steal your joy, put your morals into question?
7. Am I appealing to the opposite sex?
My rule of thumb is to be able to offer what I expect from another person. A spin on the Golden Rule. How can I expect it if I cant give it? Whether you shape-up, change the way you wear your clothes or hair, or even your attitude towards people, you should always remember it will always be for your benefit.
8. How much could I have?
With hard work and good deeds, perseverance and dedication, one can have as much as one needs. What do you want, need, how far do your dreams reach? But the question is: how much are you willing to work for it?
9. What motivates me?
Motivation comes from so many different things. Wanting to be the best, being able to provide for yourself and your children, or to be the change in someones life. Find out what drives you and what you WANT the most and let that be what gets you up in the morning.
Having a successful life is about how you handle your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and reactions. Self Improvement techniques include goal setting, changing to a positive mind set, and learning to deal with all situations in a positive manner. These skills will transfer to the workplace in business development. Without these skills, a successful LIFE is not possible.